You are in no way obligated to keep people in your life if they are toxic to you. No matter if they’re your boyfriend, girlfriend, best friend, family member, whatever.
I always tried to hold onto people because I don’t believe in giving up on people but that can do more harm than good.
I was in an un-satisfying long distance relationship for much longer than I should have been. Even after finding out I had been “catfished,” I found it hard to leave because I didn’t want to hurt him. But I had to do what was best for me. And I moved on, and surprisingly, it was a lot easier than I imagined. And only a couple months later, I found a great guy and I’m now in a happy relationship. Even if I was single, I’d still be pretty happy, being out of that relationship/situation.
I just ended a friendship a couple days ago. We were once so close and best friends, but she’s changed, for the worst in my opinion, and wasn’t treating me the way you’re supposed to treat a friend. I had been unhappy with the friendship for months and we weren’t on good terms but hadn’t ended it until recently, and we’ve cut off all contact with each other, and I feel SO GOOD about it. Like yeah it’s sad that our nearly six year relationship is over, but people outgrow each other and if someone is causing you unhappiness, you need to get away from them and do what’s best for you.
There are other people in my life I’ve let go of or those who have left me, and at the time, it seemed horrible, but I am so thankful those people left my life when they did, or when they returned only to leave again, because it showed me I could handle it and I became a better person either from having known them or from freeing myself from them.
So yeah, when you have a toxic person in your life, cut all ties with them. You don’t need to know how they’re doing or read their blog or see their Facebook statuses. It’ll just drive you crazy if you keep seeing this person. Maybe they’ll return to you in the future, but for now, you have to put yourself first.